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VaGentinMI | Posted in General Discussion on December 1, 2005 05:39am

You guys have been some of the most supportive I have ever seen. If any of you are near the Flint, MI area Friday @ 6:30, I could sure use some in person.

Misti Dawn Martindale
MARTINDALE, Misti Dawn – Age 18, of Clio, died Sunday, November 27, 2005 in Roseville, MI. She was born on September 28, 1987 in Roanoke, VA. Surviving are: father, James Lester Martindale; brother, Brett Martindale; grandparents, Anna Lee Plummer, Don and Johnnie Martindale; aunts and uncles, Reggie Plummer, Syble Norman, David and Paul Martindale; and many cousins. Misti was preceded in death by her mother, Lesia Martindale; step-mother, Sherry Lynn Martindale; and grandfather, Kenneth Plummer. Memorial service Friday, December 2, 2005 at 6:30PM at Trinity Assembly of God (I-75 at exit 126). In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to Epilepsy Foundation or your local Rescue Squad.
Published in the Flint Journal on 11/29/2005.

She was diagnosed w/ an “unknown degenerative brain disease” developmentally was well under 14 mos., went to sleep, and did not wake up. The house sure is empty & quiet. My son needs ur prayers also….he is 16 & never really had a chance to be a kid. So many days he would take care of her after school while I worked.

My days are sure going to be different. But she is dancing w/ both her Mothers, and Jesus now; has all her teeth (both front were knocked out in falls), no scoliosis, no seizures!!!!

I just have to get used to a new life w/ a major part of me missing.

 

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  1. User avater
    JDRHI | Dec 01, 2005 05:44am | #1

    James....my prayers are with you.

    So sorry.

    J. D. Reynolds

    Home Improvements

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    Gunner | Dec 01, 2005 05:45am | #2

    I wish I could be there. I'll be there in spirit. I'll stop and think of you and her at that time.

     

    http://tinyurl.com/755qq  <------ Check out this auction.

  3. andy_engel | Dec 01, 2005 05:47am | #3

    I'm terribly sorry to hear this news. My prayers with you and your family.

     

    Andy

    Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time and annoys the pig.

  4. MGMaxwell | Dec 01, 2005 05:59am | #4

    I'm sorry for your losses. No parent should ever bury a child. My thoughts are with you brother and will be with you on Friday.

  5. Hudson Valley Carpenter | Dec 01, 2005 06:09am | #5

    James,

    You're a great father.  Best wishes to you and Brett. 

    Respectfully, Peter

  6. TimLoupe | Dec 01, 2005 06:33am | #6

    Sorry to hear about your loss I'll be thinkin of you and your family

    Rev 21:4

    Tim

  7. Hooker | Dec 01, 2005 06:35am | #7

    Very sorry.  All of our prayers, esp. but not limited to Friday.

    I get paid to do carpentry.  That makes me a professional.

    If I work on my own house does that make me a DIY?

  8. FastEddie | Dec 01, 2005 06:38am | #8

    Sounds like you've been through a lot.  Sure puts my problems in perspective.

    My sincere condolences.

     

     

    "When asked if you can do something, tell'em "Why certainly I can", then get busy and find a way to do it."  T. Roosevelt

  9. Piffin | Dec 01, 2005 06:51am | #9

    I feel it.

    My youngest brother was a hydrocephalic. braindamage kept him at about a year or two old, mentally and emotioanlly all his short life. Always happy and smiling. He finally apssed to be with the lord at age 11.

    I think it took me a few weeks to finally reallize he was gone. Finally one day, I was alone, and picked up a picture of him and it hit me. I bawled for an hour or more, untill I finally fell asleep.

    I'm doing it again for you now. I pray my tears can bring you some bit of rest in sharing your sorrow.
    The sun will shine again.

     

     

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    1. cawfy | Dec 01, 2005 07:50am | #10

      My sincere condolences to you and your family.I'll keep you & yours in my prayers. george c.

  10. butch | Dec 01, 2005 01:01pm | #11

    So sorry to hear of your loss. It brings tears to my eyes

    reading the obituary. YOu will be in my prayers.

    My 13yr old daughter who has the mentality of a 1yr old

    has seziures(somewhat controlled by med.) and I sometimes

    wonder how long we have with her. I love her so dearly and can't

    imagine what it would like to lose her. It seems that special needs

    kids really fill your heart up w/unconditional love.

    My heart aches for you.

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    rjw | Dec 01, 2005 03:22pm | #12

    My prayers for you and your son and your daughter.

    May you feel God's everlasting arms holding you up through these times of sadness and trial and pain, and may God's blessings be on you and yours today and as you move forward.

    Bob Walker


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    jagwah | Dec 01, 2005 03:28pm | #13

    My deepest sympathies.

    Wish I could be there in person. I will be there in spirit. There are a great bunch of guys here all willing to listen and help. Lean on us.

    Be well.

     

  13. rsquared | Dec 01, 2005 04:14pm | #14

    I'm praying for your and your family's continued strength.  God bless.

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      PaulBinCT | Dec 01, 2005 04:28pm | #15

      My deepest condolences to you and your family...

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      G80104 | Dec 01, 2005 04:33pm | #16

       

         Sorry for you loss, Your family is in our thoughts & prayers.

                         

       

  14. pickings | Dec 01, 2005 06:03pm | #17

    How painful it must be to loose a child, especially one you are so obviously close to. Rest assured that your daughter has a special place reserved for her. God cares for all his children, especially the ones that need it most.

    My condolences to you, your son, and the rest of your family, in this most difficult of times. My prayers are with you.

    God bless.

     

  15. piko | Dec 01, 2005 06:20pm | #18

    Nothing we can say will fill the hole, but at least we can share the hurt and grief. My eyes have filled up, and I am offering my prayers for your continued guidance. I am sincerely saddened and sorry...ask for help from God, and there will be assurance that Misti is waiting to see you again. A whole and lively Misti...what a thought to help you, I hope.

    All the best...

    To those who know - this may be obvious. To those who don't - I hope I've helped.

     

  16. BobKovacs | Dec 01, 2005 06:24pm | #19

    James-

    Words can't express what you must be feeling, nor the sorrow I felt over your loss when I read your email.

    I immediately went into my daughters' rooms, hugged them both, and had tears in my eyes.  I can't imagine what you must have gone through, not knowing how long you had left with her, or the pain you must be experiencing now.  I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

    God Bless,

    Bob

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    Sailfish | Dec 01, 2005 06:26pm | #20

    Our prayers go out ot you and your family

     

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  18. frank547 | Dec 01, 2005 06:51pm | #21

    you will be in my thoughts and prayers.  Have strength

  19. SantaCruzBluz | Dec 01, 2005 06:56pm | #22

    I know there's nothing I can say that will change the way you're feeling, so I'll just help you cry. God bless you and your family.

    Allen in Boulder Creek

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    draftguy | Dec 01, 2005 06:57pm | #23

    Have 2 little boys at home. Worry about something horrible happening everytime they get into a car. Don't watch the news or read newspapers as a result, and can hardly imagine what you feel.

    Remember, she'll always be with you . . .

    all the best.

    1. DustyandLefty | Dec 01, 2005 08:29pm | #24

      My prayers for you all too.

      Dusty

      1. VaGentinMI | Dec 01, 2005 10:11pm | #26

        Thanks guys. Wish I could say it properly. keyboards come up SO VERY SHORT. 

  21. Shep | Dec 01, 2005 10:10pm | #25

    I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you must be going through right now.

    I'll be praying for you and your son to get through this difficult time.

  22. CAGIV | Dec 01, 2005 10:30pm | #27

    I'm truly sorry for your loss, you'll be in my prayers, take care

     

    Team Logo

  23. JAlden | Dec 01, 2005 10:42pm | #28

    James, I'm truly sorry for the loss of your daughter. My prayers for you and your son.

    J.

  24. BowBear | Dec 01, 2005 11:33pm | #29

    My condolences to you.

    An ex-boat builder treading water!
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    EricPaulson | Dec 02, 2005 12:25am | #30

    My sincerest sympathy to you and your family.

    May your daughter rest in peace and may you find the strength to deal with your great loss.

    Eric

    It's Never Too Late To Become What You Might Have Been

     

     

     

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    1. DougU | Dec 02, 2005 02:55am | #31

      My prayers are with you and your family.

      God bless and take care of your daughter.

      Doug

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    NickNukeEm | Dec 02, 2005 02:58am | #32

    My sincere condolences.  You and your son are in our prayers.  May the peace that passes all understanding fill your aching heart.

     

    "I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul."  Invictus, by Henley.

  27. sharpblade | Dec 02, 2005 04:40am | #33

    James,

     so sorry to hear this. got a lump in my stomach and a tear in my eye reading this, how terribly sad.

    I can relate very much since I lost a stepson over 4 years ago. only child. seems like yesterday. my wife and I have never been the same.

    sorry to tell you, you may never get used to your new life. I know. I wish you the strength to deal with it.

    All my deepest sympathy and warmest thoughts to you and your son.

  28. nailbanger | Dec 02, 2005 04:57am | #34

    James:

    I am not a parent so I can not know what you are feeling, but just imagining it brings a pain to my heart...

    God Bless, you will all be in my thoughts and prayers.

    BILL

  29. pino | Dec 02, 2005 04:58am | #35

    "No person is ever truly alone.
    Those who live no more,
    Whom we loved,
    Echo still within our thoughts,
    Our words, our hearts.
    And what they did
    And who they were
    Becomes a part of all that we are,
    Forever. "

    Be it faith, family or friends may you find that which will see you through your darkest hours. You are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless you and God bless Misti.

  30. WorkshopJon | Dec 02, 2005 04:59am | #36

    VA,

    Please except my most sincerest condolences.  My wife lost her brother a few years back, a pediatrician on this forum

    http://forums.taunton.com/dir-app/bbcard/profile.asp?webtag=tp-breaktime&uid=333901974

    'bout a year ago lost his 18 year old daughter.

    God be with you

    Jon B.



    Edited 12/1/2005 9:00 pm ET by WorkshopJon

  31. Scott | Dec 02, 2005 05:37am | #37

    I wish you strength, comfort, and peace. Your story leaves me breathless.

    These types of threads, and thankfully there have been few of them over the years, are truly bittersweet. It's both painful and wonderful to see support and understanding arise from people whom most of us have never met and will never meet. It certainly puts a lump in my throat..

    Scott.



    Edited 12/1/2005 9:39 pm ET by Scott

    1. DavidxDoud | Dec 02, 2005 06:39am | #38

      my sincere sympathy to your family in this time of grief - may you all find peace as your lives continue -

       

       

       "there's enough for everyone"

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    aimless | Dec 02, 2005 08:38am | #39

    I am so sorry for your loss.  My thoughts are with you and your family.

  33. superwork | Dec 02, 2005 03:02pm | #40

    God bless you and your family . I wish I had your strength .

    Mike - Foxboro

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